Husband with major depression, anger, violent and rage fits, what to do?

This can be so hard.: There may be little you can do, so feeling frustrated makes sense. It may be hard to find a safe way to help him - but you and any children must be considered. Perhaps other relatives or friends or clergy can provide breaks or help. If he cares, gentle but firm urging may convince him to find help. Search for a shelter and light at the end of the tunnel to aim for. Stay healthy and safe.

Anger: Violence and rage takes this behavior to another level. I would clearly suggest psychotherapy to work on anger issues, stress management, ways to communicate feelings. The therapist can help decide if medication would be helpful. You should remind him that it is affecting the quality of his life and your relationship. Above all, you need to feel safe.