I recently had two implants placed in the top middle part of my mouth. the doctor told me that even slight pressure from my tongue over the next four months could ruin the implant. i was to embarrassed to ask in person: can i orally please my wife?

Hard to guess: If it were true that "even the slightest pressure" from the tongue could "ruin the implant," that must be a uniquely fragile situation. If the fragility is only for 4 months, perhaps one can use another part of his body other than the mouth or tongue, for those 120 days. Well, it should be less than 120 days now, as the clock has been ticking. Improvise! Good luck!