My 4 year old has what i think is just dry skin? her hands hurt and when i put any kind of lotion on they turn bright red and sting. not sure what to use or if its a different issue.

Moisturizer needed: Try using virgin coconut oil as a moisturizer.

DERMATITIS: Try steroid cream since it is antinflammatory and antiallergy. It will deminished the irritation and redness.

More suggestions: Your daughter's dry hands many indicate that she has eczema or contact dermatitis. Avoiding immersion in water, topical steroids and using a gentle moisturizer frequently without rubbing the skin is suggested. Eucerin or Nivea without fragrance can be used as the moisturizer. I would suggest keeping her nails trim as well.