Herpes? i have several red spots on the penis head, foreskin is a bit inflamed, some discomfort. red spots have been there for over two weeks now, no fluid just red sores. noticed it first after sex?

From your description, almost certainly not herpes. If you are uncircumcised, probably balanitis -- the medical name for inflammation under the foreskin. Some balanitis is due to yeast, others various bacteria, and others "nonspecific". Likely it will clear up with hygience, -- retract foreskin and wash with soap & water a couple times a day. See a doctor if that doesn't work.