I received a hand job from an hiv positive lady. she touched her vagina in the act. 2 weeks later i got a sore throat, night sweats, joint pains, mouth ulcers. rapid alere test at 4 weeks came neg. 2 months later, i still have the symptoms. infected?

Nobody has ever been known to become HIV infected by hand-genital contact. Negative Alere® at 4 weeks proves your symptoms are not due to HIV: it is not possible to have HIV symptoms that long and still have a negative HIV blood test. So for sure you do not have HIV. See a doctor to evaluate other causes of your symptoms. Good luck.

The only way to be sure is to be tested. Please see your Physician for referral for appropriate lab tests.