I get feeling of regret and guilty after masturbating.moreover i feel shy consulting a sex therapist. god has given me a life.i m destroying it?

Not destroying it: The only concern I have is your feelings of regret and guilt. The vast majority of men masturbate; it is entirely normal and may contribute to good health as a means of stress reduction ; reducing risk of prostate cancer. There is nothing wrong with masturbating; there is something wrong with feeling guilty about it. Consider consulting a homeopath or counselor; be honest about your feelings.

Get help: Dr. Baker has given you very good advice. Religion should be a source of joy and peace to you, and give you the power to be kind to others. It should not be causing you this superstitious dread about your own developing body and feelings. If a pastor told you that doing what every other guy your age does is "destroying your life", you'd do well to talk with someone more sensible -- maybe even dad.