I'm have a blackhead in my ear that is swollen and hurts. i can't touch my ears because it hurts so bad and i don't know what to use.

See your doctor.: You're probably afraid to go to your doctor with this, right? Treatment of an infected blackhead only takes a second, and then the pain will be gone. Don't put it off any longer, get it treated.

Dermatologist?: If you have a dermatologist i would have them take a look, warm compress may give you temporary relief but it sounds like that bad boy needs to be drained to achieve real relief!