I think my 9yr old dughter is bipolar she doesn't care what extent she goes to get what she want she fools her father to think its my fault?

Don't self diagnose: Leave to the professionals for diagnosis and treatments, you must take the help of child psychologist or psychiatrist , to find her problem , initiation starts from school., early intervention is essential , .

Bipolar: These ways of acting do not necessarily mean your daughter is bipolar. Ask your pediatrician for a referral to a family therapist who can help you and husband with parenting in addition to helping you make a proper diagnosis regarding your dauthter's behavior. Best wishes.