After seen in er for major headaches/pressure(i was scared due to me having lupus) ct brain -. lumbar puncture - but lot fluid behind ears they recommend tubes-anything else to help other than surgury?

See an ENT: See an ENT to discuss your options. You may be able to take a decongestant instead as it is odd to have eustachian tubes put in at your age.

DebatedButDecrConges: Debate exists about whether treating nasal congestion/rhinitis helps decr ear fluid problms. Sometimes i will do this with my patients as a test: topical decongestant (ex: afrin) 2 puffs each nostril 3x/day for 4 days (then stop!). At the same time, for 1-2 weeks, aggressive trial of nasal steroid (ex: flonase) 2 puffs each nostril 3x/day for 1-2 weeks, then nl dose. Spray gently & laterally.