What do i do to get over my fear of the dentist?

Just go: Don't listen to others, especially the older generation that went through some rough dental treatment. Ask your best friend what dentist to go to, and then go and i bet you will find out it is not bad at all.

Break the cycle!: Usually fear keeps some patients away from a dentist until their dental issues become major problems requiring more invasive dental work. If all of your visits to a dentist begin with you in pain, not too much positive reinforcement there for you. My advice is to bite the bullet, explore sedation if necessary, get your oral health in order, than start fresh with regular maintenance visit.