How can i relieve tmj pain without pain meds ? is there anyway work that muscle? i am haveing neck pain because of it );

Many possibilities: If by "pain meds, " you mean narcotics, the answer is yes! there are muscle relaxing medications, anti-inflammatories, snris like cymbalta, (duloxetine) dental appliances, and lifestyle changes. You may need to choose foods that to not require exertional chewing to give your joint some relative rest; but in the worst cases, you may actually need to consult with and ear/nose/throat specialist. Avoid gum chewing.

Yes: Simple solutions to reduce or eliminate TMJ pain include warm, moist heat daily; soft diet; massage of the muscles; and wear on otc night guard.

A few ideas: Depends on symptoms, and cause of symptoms. 3 signs of TMJ dysfunction: joint noises, joint pain & limited oral opening. Self treat with soft diet, jaw exercises, massage, heat/cold, OTC pain meds. A splint or physical therapy would be next. Occasionally muscle relaxants, biofeedback. Xrays are done for diagnosis. Surgery usually reserved for serious symptoms not responsive to other treatments.