I was told i had tmj. my jaw doesn't hurt but i can't touch my temple without a bit of pain. is that normal?

If you chew or open your mouth wide without pain, you less likely have TMJ syndrome. Your pain is more consistent with nerve pain but problem of the temporal artery needs to be ruled out for a lady at your age. You should request a second opinion.

There are 2 aspects of a TMJ disorder. First, there can be an underlying jaw joint disorder which would be reflected by reduced ability to slide the jaw to the left or right at least 12mm. Second, temple muscle tension and facial muscle usually resulting form excess muscle activity such as clenching the teeth, or chewing excessively. I see both 1 & 2 in most of my TMJ patients.

You may have moo-facial pain dysfunction syndrome rather than Temporomandibular joint dysfunction. It may be wise to see a Dentist with specialty training in diagnosing and treating MFP and/or TMD. A sore temporals muscle can have many causes other than MFP and/or TMD.