Have lupus.had surgery to remove large borderline tumor, cyst, and fallopian tube from pelvis. now have health anxiety for love ones. is that normal?

Yes: Your reaction is a normal one. However, if it interferes with your daily living, you may need counselling. There may be a SLE support group in your town and you may wish to participate in some group activities for support. Have a healthy diet, exercise 30 minutes/day, drink plenty of water, have safe sex, no tobacco alcohol weed or street drugs. For nutrition: http://www.choosemyplate.gov/.