Frequent urge to urinate for months,small amounts 25+times a day,no incontinence,no uti, no ic,cystoscopy ok,seen 4 urologists,very tired.please help!

Could incontinence: I don't think it's easy to say that you don't have IC. The symptoms you are describing could either be IC, it could be urge incontinence, it could be a prolapse of the bladder or other pelvic floor dysfunction. You could have issues with bowels pressing on the bladder. What medicine have you tried besides antibiotics? I would recommend bladder training and possibly botox.