How do i not take the bait for my spouse blaming me for his recurrent resistant major depression. he says if he werrent married he would not have it.?

Not unusual: Unfortunately all too common for people with major depression or depressive cycle of bipolar disease to believe cause for depression is extrinsic, i.E person, circumstance like a business going sour or finacial loss. Rather than true intrinsic root cause.Don't take bait & insist on psychiatric consult or couple conselling & appropriate medication otherwise he may be forcing you out of the marriage.

Name the depression: Churchill referred to his depression as a black dog--if you separate your husbands illness from him as a person it might be a little easier. Loving a depressed man by yours truly might give you some ideas hoe to care for yourself--.

Couples' Therapy: You've asked multiple questions along these lines today, so this must be very concerning for you. I suggest the 2 of you work with a couples' therapist while your spouse is also getting treatment for his depression. That way, there can be a clearer picture of what's going on between you, and appropriate suggestions can be made. It's hard to do from here, knowing neither of you. Good luck.

Questions: Why are you in a relationship with a man who is telling you that he's depressed cause he's married to you? Why does he stay. You both may benefit from individual therapy to help you answer the questions above. If you want to save the marriage ( and i'm not sure if either of you want to), seek marital therapy.

MAJOR DEPRESSION: Major Depression leads to a breakdown in logic. It is important your husband finds the correct combination of medications with his Psychiatrist. But medications alone are not sufficient because they do not teach coping mechanisms. Psychotherapy with a Clinical Psychologist can help him find ways to handle problems with his thinking and help his medications work better.