My 5 yr old hasnt eaten in 20 days. what do we do? she was treated and has recovered from strep 20 days ago, but she will not eat. she has been to her doctor twice and an e.n.t. specialist; there is nothing physically wrong. yet she has this irrational fe

At : At this point you may consider taking her to a child psychologist. She may be dealing with a case of post traumatic stress disorder as a result of her illness and due to her previously choking (not clear about this from your post). At this point a mental health professional should step in and really figure out what is going on with her and recommend a treatment plan from a therapy/counseling perspective. I think this is the best option. I wish you all the very best.

How can this be? : Not eating for several days can be fatal, even with hydration, so how is your daughter getting nourishment? Was her strep so painful that she won't take anything in her mouth because of this very negative association? I would see a child psychologist and start inventing techniques that make mouth associations very pleasurable, and certainly not anxiety causing.