I have a swollen place that looks and feels like a vein its sore causes bleeding after intercourse its right outside the inner lips ?

See doctor: There are many different vascular lesions or blood vessels that can appear in the genitalia. If the lesion is sore or bleeding, it first needs to be checked out to make sure it's not a skin cancer or treated because of the bleeding (ie: with electrocautery, removal, or lasers). See a gynecologist or dermatologist.

Vulvar veins: Vulvar veins are common and tend to increase with pregnancies or menstrual periods. They can bleed, clot or cause pain with intercourse. They are easily treated usually by sclerotherapy. See a vein specialist.