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Please provide some do's and don'ts on caring for an elderly loved one.

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Dr. Thomas Namey answered

Specializes in Rheumatology

Be: Be kind and gentle. You will be in their shoes! empathize!

Answered 4/2/2016

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Try: Try not to get impatient when you've heard the same story again and again. You'll miss them one day.

Answered 9/28/2016

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Good: Good hygiene frequently lapses with the elderly. Regular washing, drying, inspection is important.

Answered 7/29/2014

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Smoothie: Smoothie drinks can be helpful nutritional aids for your relative who "eats like a bird.".

Answered 6/1/2014

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Do:: Do: Enjoy your time together Don't: forget to nurture yourself.

Answered 6/3/2014

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Dr. Barbara Lavi answered

Specializes in Clinical Psychology

Support: Support groups can B a huge resource They know how you feel & know how 2 advocate 4 the elderly.

Answered 6/25/2014

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Ignore: DO respect their wishes and life-experience. DONT feel guilty about keeping them safe.

Answered 6/28/2014

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Dr. Marsha Davis answered

Specializes in Internal Medicine

For: For end of life care consider hospice or palliative care. It is helpful to you and your loved one.

Answered 6/29/2014

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Dr. Liesa Harte answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Make: Make video or audio recordings of your elderly loved one recounting stories from their life.

Answered 6/30/2014

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Dr. Aurea Tomeski answered

Specializes in Internal Medicine

Ignore: Do not take them for granted. Listen to them even if they have told you their story 20x Love them.

Answered 7/19/2014

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Ignore: Supervise medication, compliance issues can be solved with a pill box and reminders.

Answered 7/22/2014

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Dr. Liesa Harte answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Find: Find more reasons to slow down and celebrate daily events with your elderly loved one.

Answered 7/25/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Always: Always be patient and kind. It always comes back tenfold from the person you love.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Keep: Keep on a easy, consistent schedule so your elderly loved one wont' get confused.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Keep: Keep in touch with your elderly loved one, so that you can continue to cherish your moments when together.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Make: Make their favorite dish and enjoy it together.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Spend: Spend some time and walk with them, and reminisce of happy moments spent together.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Make: Make sure your elderly loved one goes to bed on time so that they can have a restful night.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Don't: Don't be in a rush to get anything done. Things are going to take the time it takes to get it done right.

Answered 7/27/2014

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Ignore: Do allow them independence as much as possible.

Answered 7/28/2014

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Ignore: Don't talk to them like they're not there. Do treat them with respect and dignity.

Answered 1/18/2019

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Always: Always show love and respect for the person who raised and love you.

Answered 1/16/2019

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Remember: Remember that an elderly love one needs your support when they aren't feeling well.

Answered 1/16/2019

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Always: Always talk with compassion and care when helping an elderly love one. They'll appreciate it.

Answered 11/10/2019

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Listening: Listening attentively and speaking slowly produces the best results when caring for an elderly loved one.

Answered 1/18/2019

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Don't: Don't rush an elderly loved one through their meal. Take your time.

Answered 1/18/2019

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Your: Your loved one may need help eating, so stick close by to help them.

Answered 1/16/2019

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Ignore: Be respectful and gentle with the elderly, they are not children, they are the carriers of wisdom.

Answered 11/19/2014

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Dr. Alvin Lin answered

Ignore: Ask your elderly loved ones what they want while they can still express their desires. Life support?

Answered 12/2/2014

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Ignore: Allow elderly to be as independent as possible based on their capability.

Answered 1/1/2015

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Ignore: Fall prevention can be done by checking bone density regularly, exercise, ca and vit d and safe home.

Answered 3/4/2015

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Dr. Zachary Veres answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Ignore: When dealing with your elderly loved one, make sure to be patient.

Answered 3/6/2015

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Dr. James Burns answered

Specializes in Emergency Medicine

Ignore: Do: recognize physical and intellectual limitations. Don't: dwell on, or outside of the limitations,.

Answered 3/17/2015

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Ignore: It can be challenging at times, but don't underestimate the effect of just being there.

Answered 2/20/2016

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