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I met friends wife years ago and i started love her, she doesn't know this. like to speak and feel to be with her, help to forget her, can't cheat friend?

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Look deeper: I would ask and explore what is missing in your life to have continued to hold on to a fantasy? Does it stop you from having to face actual problems in your life ? If you honestly face and try to solve your unhappiness then this emotional 'mirage' may disappear. This is where psychiatric and/or therapy can be very powerful to help.

Answered 7/19/2015

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Dr. Pamela Pappas answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Infatuation: Your friend's wife may be a very attractive person, but it sounds like your feelings for her are based more in your own fantasy than in truly knowing her. I agree with my colleague about looking into yourself and your own life to understand your attraction to her. Might it feel "safer" than risking involvement with women who are available for relationships? A psychologist can help you explore.

Answered 10/12/2013

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