I have been trying to poop and my poop is literally hard and in my anus about to come out and i cant push it out . what can i do to soften it and be able to let it out . its outside my anus hole ?

Try a glycerine suppository and if that doesn’t work consider a fleet MINERAL OIL ENEMA. Once cleared, avoid recurrence by cutting down on caffeine and alcohol and be sure to increase your fluids/water to 80-100 ounces per day, more if you do strenuous activity. This will take 2-3 weeks of consistency to see a benefit and the you must continue indefinitely. Do not add fiber as it requires more flu