I have narrow eustachian tube and have not infected fluid in my ears. how do i get rid if i can't take allergy meds due to anxiousness effects?

Different meds: Plain antihistamines, like Claritin (loratadine) or zyrtec, should help. If not better, be seen by your physician or ent, and you may need a tube in your eardrum to let it drain.

Gum: Often chewing gum may create a pumping type movement of the eustachian tubes and help to remove some fluid. There are also those who recommend xylitol...Either as a nose spray or chewing xylitol gum.