Gyno will not let me take hrt due to brca1. menopause issues suck. what should i do?

Listen to your docto: It's early for menopause at 35, but it can occur. Menopausal symptoms can sometimes by helped with medication (ssri's, clonidine, etc) check w/your doctor. Don't listen to internet garbage about supplements.

Non meds: Some menopausal symptoms, like hot flashes, mood changes, and fatigue, have a perceptual component and can improve with non-drug approaches like acupuncture or hypnotherapy. May sound funky but many of my patients have benefited of those therapies.