I've been sick for over a month. if i gave my boyfriend a handjob with flesh wounds in my hands, could i possible have hiv? if not, what can it be?

Get checked: Initial HIV infection usually announces itself as a fairly severe febrile illness with sore throat and enlarged lymph nodes. Any concern that you may have this is worth seeing your physician over -- a pcr assay for HIV would give you the answer. It's unlikely you caught HIV in this way; if this man is worth considering your boyfriend, he'll gladly offer to get himself checked as well.