I need help. my husband emotional abuses me. i cant leave, i have no remote to the main gate. i have no one in this city. feels like i am suffocating, i am severely depressed and distressed. dont know what to do anymore ?

Seek local help: Find a friend, minister, doctor, social worker in whom you can confide. Look for solutions that fit into your religious and moral Needs. Divorce, counseling or abuse shelters may or may not not be available to you, so you need coping strategies. Unfortunately these solutions can only come after someone knows all about your situation (perhaps from both sides). Don’t stop seeking answers. Good luck

Abuse report: If you are being physically barred from leaving the house (against your will) that is more than emotional abuse. In the United States one can contact local police if you are being held hostage in your home. I don't know if the laws are similar in South Africa. If you don't have phone access - it looks like you have internet access to reach out for assistance.