I've been unemployed for 3 years now because of social anxiety. is it any medication that's mild that can numb the anxiety so i can finally work?

Please try CBT: I think the appropriate use of anti-anxiety medication is short term and/or focused of a specific event. Chronic use is never a good thing and chronic anxiety is best managed by you once you gain skills in therapy. It's a great value for life long benefit. You need a good fit w/ the therapist - like a coach. But it's really the key - a pill may help as you learn.

Yes: In addition to CBT as a recommendation, which would likely help you long term, there are several medication classes including SSRIs (see comments section for a link that discusses information on treatment of social anxiety). To get started with exploring options talk to a primary care provider or seek a consult from a psychiatrist or psychologist, including those on HealthTap. Be well.