Hubby anger unbearable he become so rude&wanted to hit me but never hit me he hit kids badly say bad words but realises&say sorry but not admit fault?

Bad Bad Bad Bad Bad: Hitting anybody is not allowed (it's called assault). An anger disorder and not admitting fault is probably a couple of psychiatric diagnoses and could be treated with medications and talk therapy. This man needs some marriage counselling & parenting classes badly, but my prognosis for him is grim. Going out on a limb here: if he makes no effort, seek help for yourself and your kids in a shelter.

By your description,: Your kids are victims of physical & emotional abuse & can't understand why you aren't keeping them safe. Tell your pediatrician, who'll report the child abuse to child protective services. Call a local center to aid abused women. They'll move you & your kids to a safe house. Act now. Don't wait till one of your kids discloses that daddy hits him, usually during a session on child abuse at school.