Me and my haven't been living together for 3 weeks. we are going to start marriage therapy, but should we stay apart during that time or live together?

Ask therapist: Your question is a good starting point for marital therapy. Usually it takes a lot of strain for a long time on a marriage to separate. You've both made a huge decision for complicated reasons. Now it's time to get to a therapist's office without delay for guidance on what is best for you both. If there is any issue of personal safety, stay where you are until issue is addressed. Best wishes.