20s bff said despite success she's depressed/cries alot & asked 4 secrecy. says not ready 4 therapy. how do i help her?! every1s here she's overseas!

They have to want it: Your friend has to want therapy and medication, and all you can really do is encourage him/her to seek both and engage deeply and meaningfully in the therapeutic process. You simply cannot do it for him/her, much as you'd like to. You can either be his/her friend or therapist. You cannot be both, and even though you want to see him/her get better, trying to be both simply will not work.