I have tinnitus fir over 3 years and nothing seems to work. i can't stand loud music or be in a place with different atmospheric pressure like flying?

Unfortunately: Tinnitus is recurrent and incurable. It's caused by repetitive and constant exposure to noise, be it soft or loud noise . Certain people are more prone to it because of their occupations - pilots, musicians, telephone operators (phone keeps on ringing!) golfers; exposure to boisterous nagging from a spouse etc. Remedies include just ignoring it , masking the ringing with soft music, hypnosis etc.