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A 20-year-old female asked:

How long does a child have to be around a family member before getting use to them.....my daughter is almost 11months?

3 doctor answers5 doctors weighed in
Dr. Holly Maes
Pediatrics 37 years experience
Stranger anxiety: Your daughter is entering the peak times of stranger anxiety from 9-15 months of age. Even if they have been around these family members routinely, most kids want mom and/or dad only and preferentially during this time. So it's a really bad time developmentally to try and get them used to someone new. Try to be there with them, and show pictures while doing fun things like reading and playing.
Dr. Johanna Fricke
Pediatrics - Developmental and Behavioral 51 years experience
Dr. Maes has given : Good advice. As a developmental/ behavioral pediatrician & nana who sees her grandsons intermittently, i'll add that i don't encroach on my patients' or grandkids' physical space initially at a visit. I bring an interesting toy or game & ask if they would like to play with me. If they say, "no, " i start playing without saying anything, except light, happy conversation with the parent. It works!
Dr. James Ferguson
Pediatrics 47 years experience
Ditto: Drs Maes and Fricke have covered the basics.As an experienced peds I visited my grand niece for the first time at age 11mo.I made a conscious effort not to look at her or interact with her until she decided to engage my attention.This worked well and by the 3rd day of contact, no resistance.Your relatives need to understand they have to earn the kids trust, it is not granted by blood relationship

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