I cannot hold urine in, anything i drink simply goes right through me. what can i do to have more tolerance, even if its for a drink of water?

Incontinence: Specialists in incontinence think about it as either being "stress" or "urgency" or a mix. Stress incontinence is when you leak when you cough, sneeze, etc. This is not usually fixable with medications but usually requires surgery or strengthening the pelvic floor. Urgency inctoninence is the opposite - we treat with meds, not surgery. So it depends on why you leak....