Was told that xanax (alprazolam) cannot be taken during pregnancy & i would have to take seroquil instead & in addition to my ssri. is this my only option?

Also risky: Seroquel (quetiapine) is also considered risky - higher chance of miscarriage, etc. Some psych meds are less risky than others - but none are safe entirely. Your SSRI may even be questionable. Talk w/ your OBGYN or have the 2 doctors confer. Consider CBT therapy as option. It can support you through this stage of life w/out risks. Congrats!