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Know everyone has feelings of shame but why don't bosses show them?

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Dr. Glen Elliott answered

Specializes in Child Psychiatry

Context: Bosses are supposed to be "in charge, " and often may feel that they have to display confidence in their behavior even when it is not present, e.g., having to lay off personnel because business is bad. Many don't want to look "weak" even if they are ashamed of their actions. But, it's not true "everyone" feels shame; some always find ways of rationalizing their behaviors and stay guilt free.

Answered 4/14/2016

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Dr. Pamela Pappas answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Well, not everyone: Some people do not have the capacity for shame or guilt: antisocial personality-disordered ones. These have no compassion for others, and see them as means to an end -- using people like things. Some bosses may be in this category, but certainly not all. Unless your boss has this personality problem, s/he may simply hide emotions in order to function at work, and keep his.Her own job.

Answered 9/18/2015

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Shame: Likely there is insecurity in not only bosses but in people in general who cannot discuss shame. Shame is just about the darkest emotion to verbalize, yet everyone feels shame about something. Including bosses. However, fear of judgement and further shaming therefrom inhibits discussion on the topic.

Answered 3/5/2015

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