I have a bartholin's cyst and i'm scared- i read about women having permanent pain during intercourse even after getting help/surgery. is that rare?

These can : Be so painful, and repeat. Getting them drained can also leave a scar. Sometimes it's the best way to go, but there are great herbs and baths for this. Sitz baths with lavander, bentonite clay, castor oil packs etc can be used in a bath or topically. See if you can find an herbalist in your area to guide you. Acupuncture can help too-and no, the needles don't go near the cyst.