Is there any oter way to check if you are rhesus negative, i cringe at the thought of a blood test on my arm, can they withdraw it from anywhere else?

Needle-shy? Can fix: You'll be getting blood drawn from your arm at most physician office visits from now on. You're a grown woman now, and people will think the less of you if you're not brave like the rest of us. If this is severe, ask about psychotherapy to overcome it; if not, get with friends and say "we're brave" and donate your first unit of blood -- bigger needle, helps people, conquers fear.