Im convinced my partner is a covert narcissist. he is also a psychiatrist. anyway to approach him on this and his addictions?

Family disease: Psychiatrists are not immune from addiction. Consider attending a meeting of al-anon or nar-anon, for the families and friends of alcoholics and addicts.

Narcissist?: Psychiatrists can become as ill as anyone, and without treatment generally get worse. Often, the saving grace is relationships with other professionals who can intervene early -- including with addictions. The question for you, though, is what attracts you to a person with such qualities? Your first step might be educating yourself through alanon or similar 12 step group for families of addicts.

Narcissism: This is incredibly difficult, if not impossible, depending on symptom severity. One can find oneself worn down by the narcissist's put-downs, slights, self-aggrandizement, entitlement and how the narcissist objectifies them.