Can a wisdom tooth coming in sideways not yet broke thru gums cause ear, jaw, neck pain/swelling ? what's best for swelling? plan 2 call dentist asap

Yes: If the molar and surrounding area is infected, an antibiotic should be considered after taking to your dentist. Generally a NSAID like motirin, advil (ibuprofen) or aleve (naproxen) (naprosyn) works better than an opiate. They will increase bleeding somewhat more than a newer NSAID like Celebrex (celecoxib) which doesn't thin the blood. Check with your dentist.Dental extractions don't have to be that painful.

All of the above: An impacted wisdom tooth can cause all of the above symptoms, so yes see a dentist asap for examination , evaluation and treatment options.

Yes: Yes, especially if it is just under the tissues. There is probably a communication with the oral cavity. Sounds infected. Otc pain meds, saline rinse. See oral surgeon asap.