Both little toes are red from rubbing in my sneakers. i put toe pads on them but they don't help. would extra wide sneakers eliminate the problem?

check the toe box: Look for a shoe with a wide and deep toe box. It's based on the shape of the shoe rather than buying a "wide" shoe. When you buy a wide shoe the whole shoe width is increased - it may be too loose in the back then. As for toe pads, avoid using them too because you have not increased the pressure at the site you want to relieve. Consider toe sleeves instead which slip over the toe.