Are these symptoms of hemorrhoids -bleeding from anus after wiping stinging for a long time after toilet, it aches, small red lump on top of anus?

Hemorrhoids: There are three steps to self treating hemorrhoids (blood clots in the rectal veins). 1. Soak: keep the area clean so that infection doesn't set in. 2. Soften your stool: keep from bearing down hard when having a bm so that the clot doesn't grow 3. And finally, steroids to shrink up the inflammation.

May be Fissure: The symptoms that you describe are more suggestive of an anal fissure. See a physician for evaluation.