Hi, i am a 23 years old guy who have a problem with staying hard during sex. i just lost my virginity last month, but the problem is, i cant stay hard when doing it. and i cant ejaculate at that time. at first i thought maybe because i was nervous, but in

Primary Anxiety: Your primary anxiety is based on performance. You first have a problem staying hard during sex and then you have secondary anxiety, i.e., you become anxious about becoming anxious! You project your mind (thought) into a future event that hasn't happened yet. For example, you are about to have sex and you say to yourself: "What if I can't stay hard during sex. Then you Awfulize about this event.