I have flu like symptoms fever mild throat, do i have herpes from oral?

Unlikely: I think you are asking about oral sex. When herpes is transmitted in this fashion it usually produces a classic rash with blister-like lesions which break down and form small very painful shallow ulcers. This may be accompanied by fever, malaise, etc., but it sounds like you may have a cold. Depending on the type of oral sex HIV can reach the tonsils if ejaculate hits the throat.