Is there a way to really overcome phobias?

Yes: Professional help for phobias is usually behavioral or cognitive-behavioral. For example, "systematic desensitization" is gradual exposure to the feared object or situation, with the help of a therapist, to learn to be calm in its presence. The basic idea is to disconnect the phobic stimulus from the fear/panic response. There are self-help books using similar approaches that may help too.

Exposure works!: Treatment of specific phobias with a cognitive-behavioral approach is considered quite effective. Treatment involves understanding anxiety and the phobic reaction; breathing and relaxation techniques; and gradual exposure to feared object or situation. Exposure is performed from less to more difficult situations increasing confidence and motivation until the fear fades away.

VRT for Phobias: Phobias and anxieties respond well to Virtual Reality Therapy(VRT). VRT is exposure therapy in a safe environment. The research suggests VRT is 90% effective. Seek out a therapist who uses VRT in your area. You can find providers through www.psious.com, www.limbix.com, or www.virtuallybetter.com.