My mother died from complications of anorexia when i was 12. now a 50 year old married man with kids coping with mdd for many years. is there connecti?

Mdd: There is a relationship because in both situation depression is present. The feeling of hopelessness is prevalent. Since you are suffering from a major depressive disorder and you are receive psychiatric help.

Of course: You mention you lost your mom at such an early age; also, remember that eating disorders and depression are very often associated (we may wonder if your mom also suffered from depression). Statiscally yes (both entities associate) and possibly also yes as a factor (because of genetic inheritance, and trauma) that caused or helped develop your mdd.