I want to be a mother more than anything. i've had 2 uedvts. i'm 34. do i have to give up this dream because i've had 2 clots?

Not necessarily: It depends on if you have an underlying clotting disorder and if so what kind. The complexity of hypercoagulable women who become pregnant involves the type of disorder and how best to anticoagulate during the different parts of their pregnancy. For example, no Coumadin (warfarin) during certain parts of pregnancy, use lmw heparin, etc. If your life is at sig. Risk, then maybe adopt and still be a mom.