Is there a name for being unable to handle it when someone is snoring? whether i'm awake or trying to sleep, the sound of snoring drives me to the point of tears & spikes my anxiety. was never believed growing up & always told it was in my head...?

Your previous question made it seem the problem is your partner's snoring. Now it is apparent that other persons' snoring triggers some sort of psychological reaction. Indeed, it probably is "in your head", but that doesn't make it inappropriate mean anything bad about you. Probably it can be treated, perhaps with behavioral therapy. Contact a psychologist or ask your PCP for a referral. Good luck