Anyone else have dysfunctional home like mine?

Many of us do: Tolstoy wrote that no two unhappy families are alike. But this is fairly common. Especially if someone in the home has mental illness and is noncompliant, the problem may not be solvable and you'll need to escape -- the military, excelling in school, something else that's socially useful. A pastor or other counselor may help. The french say, the best grapes don't grow from the best soil.