Can you suggest a means to get my doctor to prescribe narcotic pain meds for my very real chronic pain?

Wrong attitude: Opioids exist for a reason but 1) there are risks and 2) pain management is like weight loss: it works best when you and a treating clinician collaborate in good faith on an individualized treatment plan based on a thorough evaluation of both your individual profile and available treatment options. If your md flatly refuses to rx opioids you think you need, only thing to do is find someone else.