Everytime i try to put a tampon in i freak out and can do it how can i calm myself down or is their an easier way to put a tampon in?

Find help: Some freak out to snakes, spiders, bees, etc. which is often labeled a phobia. If this is yours, you need to find a life coach/counselor/therapist to sort though what issues make you look at a simple procedure with such a reaction. It may or may not have to do with sexuality, menses itself, past life experiences, etc. Whatever the trigger it is unlikely to fade unless you do the work to find out.