My husband squeezes his absess that the docs opened. i feel like i should stop him. stuff (kinda like puss) comes out so should he stop squeezing it?

Yes: It is a painful process and might cause scarring and more inflammation. You should see the treating doctor for review of the wound

Incised abscess: I leave a drain in larger abscesses This one must be small, Obviously, your husband should be on antibiotics and the pus should be coming spontaneously on the gauze dressing that he should change daily. I would say, hands off, except for cleaning the skin and dressing changes..