I'm a 43 year old african american woman trying to stop smoking cigarettes and lose about 20 lbs. how do i maintain this challenge at the same time?

CalledDetermination,: if successful. Many find both difficult. Writing very detailed lists, ongoing updating them about WHY you do what you do, though they drive results you are not happy with, would be a first step in understanding yourself, motivations & noticing options you might like better. Also, after finding options you like better, emphasizing/allowing&recruiting rewards for these new choices routinely helpful.